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Friday, 16 May 2014

Violence not a product of mental illness



Violence not a product of mental illness


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File photo: Violent crimes are committed by violent people, those who do not have the skills to manage their anger, says the writer.
Violence is not a product of mental illness. It is a product of compromised anger management skills, writes Laura Hayes.
Washington - In the 1980s, I was working towards my degree in clinical psychology by training at a psychiatric hospital. One sweet, diminutive, elderly patient sometimes wandered the halls. She had been committed to the hospital after she stabbed someone in a supermarket.
She was what is sometimes referred to as a revolving-door patient – she was schizophrenic and heard frightening voices in her head, and when she became psychotic enough, she would be hospitalised, stabilised on medication, and then released. There she would soon go off her medication, become psychotic, be re-hospitalised, stabilised again on medication, released and so on.
At her commitment hearing, she testified that she had become extremely upset in the grocery store before repeatedly stabbing the man in front of her in the checkout line.
The hearing officer, aware of her history and sympathetic to this woman with such a sweet demeanour, asked helpfully if she had been hearing voices at the time. Yes, she replied, she had.
“And what were the voices telling you?” the officer inquired supportively. She explained that the voices were telling her not to hurt the man, but he was in the express checkout lane with more than 10 items, and that made her so mad that she couldn’t stop herself.
In addition to being a valuable cautionary tale about grocery store etiquette, the story illustrates an important truth about violence and mental health: violence is not a product of mental illness; violence is a product of anger. When we cannot modulate anger, it will control our behaviour.
It has become fashionable to blame mental illness for violent crimes. It has even been suggested that these crimes justify not only banning people with a history of mental illness from buying weapons but also arming those without such diagnoses so that they may protect themselves from the dangerous mentally ill. This fundamentally misrepresents where the danger lies.
Violence is not a product of mental illness. Nor is violence generally the action of ordinary, stable individuals who suddenly “break” and commit crimes of passion.
Violent crimes are committed by violent people, those who do not have the skills to manage their anger. Most murders are committed by people with a history of violence. Murderers are rarely ordinary, law-abiding citizens, and they are also rarely mentally ill. Violence is a product of compromised anger management skills.
In a summary of studies on murder and prior record of violence, American criminologists Don Kates and Gary Mauser found that 80 to 90 percent of murderers had police records, in contrast to 15 percent of adults overall.
In a study of domestic murderers, 46 percent of the perpetrators had had a restraining order against them at some time. Family murders are preceded by prior domestic violence more than 90 percent of the time. Violent crimes are committed by people who lack the skills to modulate anger, express it constructively and move beyond it.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition, the reference book used by mental health professionals to assign diagnoses of mental illness, does very little to address anger.
The one relevant diagnosis is intermittent explosive disorder (IED), a disorder of anger management. People with IED tend to come from backgrounds in which they have been exposed to patterns of explosive disorder behaviour, often from parents whose own anger is out of control.
But the manual does not provide a diagnostic category helpful for explaining how someone can, with careful planning, come to enter a school, a nursing home, a theatre, or government facility and indiscriminately begin to kill.
Violent crimes committed by people with severe mental illnesses get a lot of attention, but such attacks are relatively rare.
Paolo del Vecchio of the US Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration has said: “Violence by those with mental illness is so small that even if you could somehow cure it all, 95 percent of violent crime would still exist.”
A 2009 study by Seena Fazel (a senior lecturer in forensic psychiatry and consultant forensic psychiatrist at the University of Oxford) found a slightly higher rate of violent crime in schizophrenics – but it was almost entirely accounted for by alcohol and drug abuse.
Likewise, the MacArthur Violence Risk Assessment Study found mentally ill people who did not have a substance abuse problem were no more violent than other people in their neighbourhoods.
One of the allegations that have recently been made is that the mental health community is failing society in dealing with violent crime. I would agree with this assessment.
We have failed to provide an appropriate diagnosis for out-of-control anger or a framework to assist people in understanding the senseless violence around them, and worse, we have done nothing to prevent it.
The truth is, anger management skills are simple techniques that can and should be taught to children and adolescents. We should not wait to teach these skills until verbally or physically violent behaviour has become habitual and, often, life-threatening.
The skills involve balancing the initial fight-or-flight response, governed by the sympathetic nervous system, with its opposite, the parasympathetic nervous system, which permits reasoning to take over again. It’s simple, but it requires a significant amount of practice.
There are many techniques that can be taught to achieve this end: deliberate shifting from emotional to more objective thinking, deep breathing and other relaxation techniques, communication and listening skills and identifying warning cues before anger boils over.
Mindfulness training is a technique that shows great promise as a tool for the development of healthy and constructive management of negative emotions.
Mindfulness can reduce anxiety, depression and stress. It has been used with success in populations as diverse as cardiac patients, prison inmates, police officers and children.
It incorporates deep breathing, heightened attention to one’s internal state and the acceptance of internal discomfort. One can observe one’s own thoughts without identifying with them and acting on them.
Dialectical behaviour therapy, a kind of cognitive therapy developed by the psychologist Marsha Linehan, was designed to meet the needs of extremely emotional, volatile individuals and has been used successfully over the past 25 years. It incorporates mindfulness skills and also teaches distress tolerance, emotional regulation and interpersonal effectiveness.
Uncontrolled anger has become our No 1 mental health issue. Though we have the understanding and the skills to treat the anger epidemic in the US, as a culture, we have been unwilling to accept the violence problem as one that belongs to each and every one of us.
We have sought scapegoats in minorities, racial groups and now the mentally ill.
When we are ready to accept that the demon is within us all, we can begin to treat the cycle of anger and suffering.
Slate/The Washington Post News Service

Tuesday, 13 May 2014

The Evolutionary Advantage of SQUIRREL!


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The one thing to know about evolution - it doesn't have a set trajectory.  It's the most laissez-faire of theories; in principle, that which is best able to adapt lives to carry on its genes with other well-adapting creatures.  What's being adapted to varies; a peacock's tail is great at attracting mates, less o at helping a male avoid predators - shows where peacock evolution puts its priorities.

A consequence of this gene adaptation; that which was valuable doesn't always go away, it recedes, or gets switched off.  The closer a variation was in time, the more likely it is to come back, given the right sequencing - red hair, for example, or even maybe ADHD.

Which, of course, means that it isn't a learning disorder, as it gets classified, but a potentially maladaptive trait - for certain circumstances.

If you think about how a nomadic hunter operates, it's not all that different from serial start-up founders; almost like squirrels, they start something cool, get bored and move on.  It's the social equivalent to killing and leaving behind an animal carcass for scavengers to digest.

As with Autism and other extranormal cognitive abilities, perhaps we're doing ourselves a disservice by judging what's different too quickly.

We wouldn't want to miss an opportunity to get ahead now, would we?

Friday, 9 May 2014

It All Comes Together



How Open Data Could Help Save The Day After A Disaster

Instead of being a sinkhole for millions in government funds and donations, recovery after the next big disaster can be more transparent and effective.
Millions of people turn to technology for help when disaster strikes. After Hurricanes Katrina and Sandy, Americans posted ads on Craigslist offering victims their spare bedrooms, while others used the platform to connect with missing loved ones. In 2010, less than a week after the devastating earthquake in Haiti, organizations raised more than $16 million in donations via text message. But while support for those affected by disasters is critical, what about developing more comprehensive tools that prepare citizens and government before the next catastrophe--and that can also help communities rebuild using local resources?
With climate change showing no signs of lessening, catastrophic disasters are only going to increase in intensity. Disaster preparedness and community resiliency are vital. And citizens need to be able to access accurate information in real time, before, during, and after these horrifying events.
We all have been frustrated by reports of billions of dollars wasted or used ineffectively after a disaster. Think about Katrina, where along with the lives lost, many of our donations never reached those we intended to help. Not to mention the millions more in taxpayer dollars that were doled out in no-bid contracts to Halliburton and others.
There is a better way. The growing open data and civic tech movement can help make recovery more transparent and local. Our donations and taxpayer dollars can be spent much more effectively after a disaster. They can go to local businesses in affected communities that have a stake in making sure their infrastructure is rebuilt properly, and we can hire local residents who have found themselves out of a job because of the disaster.
While government advances in serving victims of disaster every year, those in the civic tech industry are in a unique position to help them move more quickly and efficiently--and ultimately help in eliminating problems like no-bid contracts and fraud among relief recipients.
Open data has helped improve communication between federal agencies and it can help before, during, and after a disaster. It can hold people and companies accountable when they are entrusted to spend our tax dollars wisely while repairing the damage after disasters.
A recent report from U.C. Berkeley and California Lt. Gov. Gavin Newsom made it abundantly clear that Californians want government to focus more on resiliency. Overwhelmingly, the California Report Card found the top concern up and down the state is disaster preparedness--or lack thereof. This is not unique to the Golden State.
Civic startups and others in the open-data space have shown that they are an incredible resource when it comes to creating tools that citizens and government can use to be better prepared for a crisis. Open data has made mobile apps possible that identify the location of hundreds of Automatic External Defibrillators (AEDs) when someone nearby is in need of a lifesaving procedure. Another app maps out all the fire hydrants in Boston, so volunteers can dig them out after a snowstorm. But, we can do more.
On Christmas Eve this past year, many of us in the civic-tech community received a call to join Todd Park, the White House’s chief technology officer, for a Safety Datapalooza in Washington, D.C. We were asked to come to Washington to see if we could help develop tools and resources to empower local communities.
Out of our initial discussion, and a number of follow-up events and conversations with FEMA, the U.S. Department of Transportation, Department of Agriculture, and others, my company, Appallicious, has begun working on a tool for neighborhoods to plan, prepare, and create leadership before any disaster. It’s called the Disaster Assessment and Assistance Dashboard (DAAD). The dashboard uses open data to assess community resiliency, which gives communities the ability to access necessary resources in order to be better prepared for a disaster, and promotes economic recovery after one occurs.
DAAD enables citizens, businesses, and governments to share resources; request assistance; and better understand the potential for recovery on a localized basis, all in one application. The dashboard further empowers communities and businesses to list their available assets in a shareable marketplace for the federal and local government to hire locally while rebuilding. This makes a whole lot more sense than handing out multi-million dollar contracts to huge corporations. This way, the funding of these rebuilding projects stays in the community, contributing to the overall economic recovery, and putting local residents back to work.
We don’t know when the next disaster will strike. But we’ve seen how the civic-tech and open-data movement is beginning to make government work better, save money, and increase transparency. This same energy should be a center of any disaster preparedness conversation moving forward. Both the private and public sector needs to step up and make comprehensive disaster preparedness technology a priority.

Monday, 5 May 2014

Zombie Survival Kit (Tomasino)




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It's become somewhat of the popular joke to have a post about Zombie Survival these days, so I guess I'll toss my two-cents into the fray. Personally, I've never been much concerned with the Zombie menace, but there many other possible scenarios out there that call for readiness in the face of limited resources, disrupted public services, and downright chaos. With that (and an impending hurricane) in mind, I'd like to share my personal emergency kit with you all.
Let me first preface this by saying that this is far from everything I have prepared in case of emergency. Rather, this represents my "grab bags" of absolute essentials that we would take with us in case of a zero-warning evacuation or similar event. Were we limited to traveling only on foot, I might drop an item or two (dutch oven). Were we given a few minutes and the ability to take the car, I might add a few heavier things.
I have also omitted almost all of my clothing from this kit, mainly because I didn't want to go digging around in my closet. If you decide to mimic this, or use it for inspiration, just use some basic common sense in your clothing choices: layers, avoid cotton, pack light, bring extra socks.
This list follows the pictures from the top left, downward in columns, to the bottom right. The item headings are all links where you can find these items for purchase.
Gear Left

MTM Survivor Dry Box with O-Ring Seal

This box is the core to my medical kit. It is waterproof, tough-as-hell, and bright orange to find it quick in a hurry. It even has a handy little compass on the top. How quaint!

Adventure Medical Kits Trauma Packwith QuikClot

For serious trauma like gunshot wounds or tree branches through your chest, you need more than a bandaid. While the need may be uncommon, having this cheap little pack might just save your life, or the life of someone you love. It takes up very little space, too.

Quake Kare Emergency Thermal Blankets (4 Pack)

I hope to never have to need this level of extra thermals, but for an ounce and the tiniest bit of space, these provide us a "blanket" of security. Terrible joke, I know.

OtterBox 1000 Series Waterproof Case

These are my waterproof cases within the waterproof case. If there's one thing you never, ever want to get wet, it's your emergency bandages and medicines. This extra level of protection is absolutely imperetive in my opinion. Also, if you have anything really sensitive that needs to stay dry, toss it in one of these. I find that three of them are enough to fit the Medique kit below.

Medique 40061 First Aid Kit, 61-Piece

This handy medical kit has it all, short of a hospital, anyway. If you think you'll have a need for extras of a particular thing, don't hesitate. If there's one area you shouldn't skimp, it's first aid. If you're using this as your household first aid kit, remember to replenish items as you use them. You don't want to get trapped without any bandages because you "just haven't made it back to CVS yet."

Etón FR160R Microlink Self-Powered AM/FM/NOAA Weather Radio with Flashlight, Solar Power and Cell Phone Charger (Red)

This thing is a beast. I charged it with the hand crank for just over ten seconds and then sat listening to the radio all day long. If you plan on staying in touch with the outside world (or at least informed), having a backup radio with NOAA stations is important. Besides, this little guy will charge your cellphone too!

Rothco 550lb. Type III Nylon Paracord

I'm an Eagle Scout, and thus I never feel lost if I have a good length of rope. Paracord is extremely strong for its size, but it packs down light and tight. Use it for everything and everything from a clothesline to animal traps in the worst of situations.

3M Scotch Heavy Duty All-Weather Duct Tape, 1.88-Inch by 45-Yard, 1-Pack (2245)

Don't settle for the cheap duct tape. Get the good outdoor all-weather stuff. One roll should be more than enough to patch things up, bandage you up, make a stretcher, or any number of other tasks.

Hand Axe

If your kit needs to help you out past a day or two, being able to work with the natural resources around you is imperitive. Chop up some downed branches for a fire. Clear a space for your family. Make some posts for hanging a trash bag (instant trash bin). Be creative and live in outdoor luxury with this.

Chainmate CM-24SSP 24-Inch Survival Pocket Chain Saw With Pouch

If you find yourself working with tough wood that needs clearing, having the right tools makes all the difference. Your hatchet can do a lot, but sometimes its nice to have a saw too. This thing is tiny and super light. Add it to the bag and then hope you don't need it.

ADC Medicut Shears, 7-1/4"

Most scissors are weak and useless when it comes to anything other than wrapping paper. These things have some real power, and they'll get the job done again and again. You can even sharpen them!

Snow Peak Titanium Spork

Ok, there's really no reason for this at all. I just love having a titanium spork on the list. Sue me.

Entrenching Tool

My advice for survival scenarios: Learn how to make a latrine. Seriously. It'll take you five minutes to watch a video on youtube and it will make your outdoor living much, much easier.

Leatherman

While I wouldn't rely on one of these guys solo, having all the little tools is a help. Suppliment your main knife with any old Leatherman model to add versitility.

Beretta Airlight II Tactical Knife, 30% Serrated 2.25" Skeleton Blade

I'm a bit of a knife junkie. Beretta makes a killer folding knife. If you have a solid blade like the Mora Classic below, this isn't exactly necessary, but you can think of it as a backup if that makes you feel better. You certainly don't want to end up bladeless. These are your primary tools of survival.

Smith's PP1 Pocket Pal Multifunction Sharpener

A dull knife is almost as bad as no knife. If you're going to be using them... really using them, keep them sharp. This will also help you in cases of accidental cuts. A clean cut heals much faster and with less chance of infection.

Potable Aqua Water Treatment Tablets

Clean water is absolutely essential to survival. There are a ton of options available thanks to fancy technologies these days. Get a filter pump or some sort of reverse osmosis device and live like kings. Just make sure to grab some iodine tablets as a backup. Filters break sometimes. These might make your water taste tinny, but you'll live. (Side note: you can also use bleach to purify water!)

Petzl E97 Tikka Plus 2 Headlamp

In the redundency department, along with your knives, add light to the list. A headlamp will keep your hands free to do work. They last a really long time with LEDs.

Gerber Infinity Ultra Task Light

Bring a flashlight, but not one with huge, honkin' D batteries. They're harder to find replacements than AA, and much heavier.

Bic Lighters

Don't buy them from this link. Get them at your local store for next to nothing. Have a few handy, along with some matches in your dry-box, just in case. And while you're watching survival videos on how to make latrines, you might as well learn to make a fire too. Don't rely on watching as knowing, though. Give it some practice before you need the skill.

Mora Sweden Classic #1 Red Wood Handle Carbon Steel Knife

Very few knives are better than this one. At 15$, you can afford to get extras too. Treat them well: sharpened, oiled, not chipped. They'll last a lifetime.

Folding Camp Saw

Another backup for your chainsaw. Or maybe the chainsaw is the backup. If you're going to stay outdoors for any length of time, bring a saw.

Datrex 3600 Emergency Food Bar

You'll notice I haven't put much in the way of food on this list. That's because you should spend some time learning your local edibles before you need them. Learn what berries you can eat, and also what animals are in your area. Learn to make a snare. Don't bother wasting time hunting deer unless you already have all the gear and experience. Set snares around your camp instead. It's more reliable. If all else fails, these emergency food bars are good for up to 5 years and pack enough calories to keep you going for a long, long time.

Camelbak or Platypus

You're going to need water containers. Have a variety, but don't keep them all filled up. Learn to treat your water so you don't have to carry it all with you. Carry the empty containers with a minimum amout of water for drinking as you travel, then fill them up when you stop, treat them, and save yourself the weight. 1 liter of water weights about 1kg. That adds up quick.

Youngstown Glove 05-3080-70-L General Utility Lined with KEVLAR Glove Large, Gray

The most common place to injure yourself working in survival situations is on your hands. Protect them with more than a pair of designer cotton gloves. These guys have Kevlar on the insides and outsides of your hands. Fantastic, and worth the price. Test them out with some yard work and you'll see what I mean.

Backpacker Poncho

Get a poncho that will keep you and your stuff dry.
Gear Right

Gossamer Gear Mariposa Ultralight Backpack

Pack choices are a highly personal decision. I'm an ultra-light backpacker, so this relatively cheap bag from Gossamer Gear is a fantastic fit for me. The one pictured is a slightly older model than the link. Remember, you may need to carry your emergency gear at some point. You can't just rely on the car to get you everwhere. Plan ahead for the un-fun possibilities.

Minus33 100% Merino Wool Base Layer 703 LightWeight Short Sleeve Crew Neck Top

I don't want to go over clothing too much, but let me make a brief mention about the basics here. Pack in layers: base layer, mid layer, outer layer, insulation. Avoid cotton or other fabrics that won't hold your heat when wet. You might spend some time being dirty. That's ok. Pick things that you can wear again and again and that will hold together. Quality over quantity here.

Lodge Logic Dutch Oven with Loop Handles

This luxury will probably the first thing to be left behind if we have to set out on foot. It's damn heavy, but what a versitile cooking tool. It works in your oven, in your fireplace, or on a campfire. It cleans up with a quick rinse and is ready to go again. Pure camping-cooking heaven.

Outdoor Research Wind Pro Balaclava

Leave the baseball cap. Dress for function, not form. This will keep you warm, and that's what's really important.

Spectra® Braided Cord 1050lb test - Heavy Duty Speargun Line - (1/8"DIA x 100ft LEN)

This cord is great for any number of uses, but it is in the kit especially for hanging a bear-bag. I use the PCT method myself, so I have the tools to fit it. In a pinch, though, you can get away with just a bag and line. Wildlife have incredible senses of smells. Remember, if you are outside, you don't have walls keeping your food and gear safe. Be wary and hang your food.

Stuff Sacks (Bear Bag, etc)

To go along with the line above, these stuff sacks from zpacks are wonderful. They weigh almost nothing and are very sturdy.

Tempest Tent

There's a lot of ways to make a shelter outdoors. This is a pretty hardcore 4-season lightweight tent. It's not the cheapest solution, nor the best in all situations. I use it for a variety of camping conditions outside of my emergency kit. If you aren't much of an outdoorsman, there's probably a better shelter for you. Ask around at Gander Mtn or REI, or bug your local scouts when they try to sell you popcorn.

Littlbug Junior Stove

There's a lot of stove options for the backcountry. White gas, kerosene, etc, are all valid. This "stove" is little more than a wind-shield and chimney for a tiny wood fire. It fits in my ultra-light model. If you know how to make a fire, this might work for you. If you get something more fancy, have a backup, and make sure you have plenty of fuel.

Snow Peak Ti-Mini Solo Combo Cook Set

Have something to heat up water. In survival situations, many times "cooking" literally means, "add hot water". Heat to purify. Heat to rehydrate. Heat!

Snow Peak Ti-Double H600 Stacking Mug

This mug stacks nicely with the cookset above, so I have a pot for heating the water, and a cup for eating. It keeps my cooking pot clean.

Z Lite Mattress

Sleeping on the ground can be rough. Go easy on your back with a little layer. More importantly, get some insulation between your body and the ground. The earth will suck the heat right out of you.

Jacks-R-Better Sierra Sniveler

I have horrible restless leg syndrome, and most sleeping bags feel like a coffin to me. A nice power-down quilt gives me the warmth I need at night without the restrictive footbox. Pick whatever works for you. The single most dangerous thing when you are forced to sleep outside is exposure. You will die from exposure in a single night. Make sure you have good shelter before you even worry about water or food.

waterBOB Emergency Drinking Water Storage

This is not pictured, but very handy. If you are going to be staying in your house without power for a while, toss this into your bathtub and fill it up right away. 100 gallons of water will last you a while. Purify it to drink, grab a bucket and pour it in the back of your toilet to flush it manually, clean yourself up. Just remember to be more conservative if you are unlikely to have help or power restored in the near future. It may have to last a while.

Thursday, 1 May 2014

7 WAYS TO TURN YOUR OPPONENTS INTO OPPORTUNITIES (Ryan Holiday)



7 WAYS TO TURN YOUR OPPONENTS INTO OPPORTUNITIES

CHANNEL YOUR EMOTION, ACCEPT WHAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL, TAKE THE OFFENSIVE--USE YOUR COMPETITION TO YOUR BEST ADVANTAGE.
Whether it’s a rival business competitor or an overbearing boss at work, the answer to what is holding us back often lies within the obstacle itself.
Instead of despairing at what stands in our way of achieving our goals, we should change our perspective and see the problem with a ready solution. These solutions can be found in an ageless set of philosophical principles that great men and women have followed.
An opponent is nothing more than a guide that will show us the way to defeat our obstacles--or go around them. Here are seven ways to turn those that stand in our way into the way:

1. CHANNEL YOUR ENERGY

Instead of giving in to frustration, we can put it to good use. It can power our actions, which, unlike our disposition, become stronger and better when loose and bold. We can respond by resisting, or we can channel our energy in a way that empowers and strengthens us.
To survive segregation in the 1950s and 1960s, Arthur Ashe learned from his father to mask his emotions and feelings on the court. No reacting, no getting upset at missed shots, and no challenging bad calls.
All the energy and emotion he had to suppress was channeled into a bold and graceful playing form. While his face was controlled, his body was alive--fluid, brilliant, and all over the court.
Feelings need an outlet, of course, but Ashe deployed them to fuel his explosive speed, in his slams and chips and dives.
Adversity can harden you. Or it can loosen you up and make you better--if you let it. Rename it and claim it--that’s what Ashe did.
It’s a power that drives our opponents and competitors nuts. They think we’re toying with them. It’s maddening--like we aren’t even trying, like we’ve tuned out the world. Like we’re immune to external stressors and limitations on the march toward our goals.

2. AMOR FATI: LOVE EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS

When we discard our expectations and accept what happens to us, understanding that certain things--particularly bad things--are outside our control, we are left with this: loving whatever happens to us and facing it with unfailing cheerfulness.
It is the act of turning what we must do into what we get to do.
Instead of fighting what we can’t control, we can put our energy and emotions and exertions where they will have real impact. This is that place. We will tell ourselves: This is what I’ve got to do or put up with? Well, I might as well be happy about it.
It’s a little unnatural to feel gratitude for things we never wanted to happen in the first place. But the opportunities and benefits lie within adversity. In overcoming them, we can emerge stronger, sharper, and empowered. There is little reason to delay these feelings. To begrudgingly acknowledge later that it was for the best, when we could have felt that in advance because it was inevitable.

3. WHAT’S RIGHT IS WHAT WORKS

We spend a lot of time thinking about how things are supposed to be, or what the rules say we should do, trying to get it all perfect. We tell ourselves that we’ll get started once the conditions are right, or once we’re sure we can trust this or that. When, really, it’d be better to focus on making due with what we’ve got--on focusing on results instead of pretty methods.
Sometimes you do it this way, sometimes that way, not deploying the tactics you learned in school but adapting them to fit each and every situation. Any way that works--that’s the motto.
As they say in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, it doesn’t matter how you get your opponents to the ground, after all, only that you take them down.
You’ve got your mission, whatever it is. Like the rest of us you’re in the pinch between the way you wish things were and the way they actually are (which always seem to be a disaster). How far are you willing to go? What are you willing to do about it?
Scratch the complaining: No waffling. No submitting to powerlessness or fear. How are you going to solve this problem? How are you going to get around the rules that hold you back?

4. USE YOUR OPPONENT AGAINST HIMSELF

Wise men are able to make a fitting use even of their enemies.--Plutarch
Sometimes you overcome obstacles not by attacking them but by withdrawing and letting them attack you. You can use the actions of others against themselves instead of acting yourself.
We get so consumed with moving forward that we forget that there are other ways to get where we are heading. It doesn’t naturally occur to us that standing still--or in some cases, even going backward--might be the best way to advance.
There is a certain humility required in this approach. It means accepting that the way you originally wanted to do things is not possible. You just haven’t got it in you to do it the “traditional” way. But so what?
We should find solace in this. It means that very few obstacles are ever too big for us. Because that bigness might in fact be an advantage. Because we can use that bigness against the obstacle itself. Remember, a castle can be an intimidating, impenetrable fortress, or it can be turned into a prison when surrounded. The difference is simply a shift in action and approach.
We can use the things that block us to our advantage, letting them do the difficult work for us. Sometimes this means leaving the obstacle as is, instead of trying so hard to change it.

5. USE THE FLANK ATTACK

In a study of some 30 conflicts comprising more than 280 campaigns from ancient to modern history, the brilliant strategist and historian B. H. Liddell Hart came to a stunning conclusion: In only six of the 280 campaigns was the decisive victory a result of a direct attack on the enemy’s main army.
Only six. That’s 2%.
If not from pitched battles, where do we find victory? 

From everywhere else: From the flanks. From the unexpected. From the psychological. From drawing opponents out from their defenses. From the untraditional. From anything.

The way that works isn’t always the most impressive. Sometimes it even feels like you’re taking a shortcut or fighting unfairly. There’s a lot of pressure to try to match people move for move, as if sticking with what works for you is somehow cheating. Let me save you the guilt and self-flagellation: It’s not.
Remember, sometimes the longest way around is the shortest way home.

6. SEIZE THE OFFENSIVE

The best men are not those who have waited for chances but who have taken them; besieged chance, conquered the change, and made chance the servitor.--E.H. Chapin
Ordinary people shy away from negative situations and avoid trouble. What great people do is the opposite. They never waste an opportunity to flip a personal tragedy or crisis to their advantage.
At certain moments in our brief existences we are faced with great trials. We must see that this “problem” presents an opportunity for a solution that we have long been waiting for.
It is in these moments that we must seize the offensive, because it is when people least expect it that we can pull off our biggest victories.
In many battles, as in life, the two opposing forces will often reach a point of mutual exhaustion. It’s the one who rises the next morning after a long day of fighting and rallies, instead of retreating--the one who says, I intend to attack and whip them right here and now--who will carry victory home.

7. GET MOVING

Life can be frustrating. Oftentimes we know what our problems are. We may even know what to do about them. But we fear that taking action is too risky, that we don’t have the experience or that it’s not how we pictured it or because it’s too expensive, because it’s too soon, because we think something better might come along, because it might not work.
And you know what happens as a result? Nothing. We do nothing.

Tell yourself: The time for that has passed. The wind is rising. The bell’s been rung. Get started, get moving.

So when you’re frustrated in pursuit of your own goals, don’t sit there and complain that you don’t have what you want or that this obstacle won’t budge. If you haven’t even tried yet, then of course you will still be in the exact same place. You haven’t actually pursued anything.
All the greats we admire started by saying, "Yes, let’s go." And they usually did it in less desirable circumstances than we’ll ever suffer.
Just because the conditions aren’t exactly to your liking, or you don’t feel ready yet, doesn’t mean you get a pass. If you want momentum, you’ll have to create it yourself, right now, by getting up and getting started.