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Monday 31 March 2014

‘Trust gap’ a growing problem for public servants and politicians, think-tank warns



‘Trust gap’ a growing problem for public servants and politicians, think-tank warns
 
OTTAWA – An ever-widening trust gap between bureaucrats, politicians and their political staff could displace the traditional policy advisory role of Canada’s non-partisan public service in the government’s decision-making, a prominent think-tank says.
 
David Mitchell, president of the Public Policy Forum, said a growing lack of trust and understanding between bureaucrats and their political masters will be one of the biggest challenges for the next generation of leaders who will be retooling the future public service.
 
He said the chasm emerged as a key issue in the PPF’s latest study, on the types of leaders that public services at all levels of government will need.
 
“There’s a strong sense that public servants not only have to be more sensitive to this (gap) but they need training on how to work more effectively with elected representatives and their staff, whatever political stripe, because if the gap continues to grow, there is a question of whether the public service will even remain a part of the government anymore in the traditional sense that it is part of the policy development and decision-making apparatus,” Mitchell said.
 
Mitchell said part of the problem is that some public servants have taken the traditional principles of a neutral and non-partisan public service too far.
 
“I think we prided our public service on being politically neutral and non-partisan to a fault because it has persuaded some to think they cannot even engage in meaningful dialogue with elected representatives or their staff.  That is an extreme view but I think it may have been taken to the extreme and we have to build stronger understanding and more trust.”
 
But Mitchell said rebuilding trust will take more than the effort of public servants. He said the government will have to be “political champions” for this change as well as for other sweeping reforms of the public service.
 
The public service is clearly poised for change and the federal government’s budget cuts are forcing a rethink of the way work is managed, organized and even compensated.
 
Public servants face changes at a pace and level of complexity previous generations never faced: technology, globalization, volume of information, unprecedented scrutiny of their operations, and a Canadian public that expects better service even as the bureaucracy battles an image as slow-footed, coddled and overpaid.
 
At the same time, relations with politicians are strained and public servants have lost their former near-monopoly on providing long-term policy advice. Politicians  now take a bigger role, along with lobbyists, advocacy or industry groups or pollsters.
 
Public servants have watched many promised reforms come and go over the years with little effect. But Mitchell argues the big difference this time in an unprecedented “generational” turnover, fuelled by the exodus of baby boomers, that will drive changes previous governments found elusive.
 
The public service hired more than 160,000 new employees over the past decade and faces a turnover of half its executives between 2010 and next year. That means more than half of today’s public service knows no other federal government but the Conservatives.
 
They came to the job when developing big policy ideas took a back seat to economic restraint and where accountability, spending and job cuts, and avoiding risks were the order of the day.
 
Mitchell said this next generation of leaders – who will have climbed the ranks with their management skills – won’t have the strength and expertise in policy development of their predecessors, for whom policy-making was the ticket to the top.
 
He said they will face the challenge of keeping that policy capacity alive and replacing those skills as boomers retire “because if those skills have atrophied to the point that policy is only done outside of government, then I think we are weaker for it.”
 
The Public Policy Forum study, called “Flat, Flexible and Forward-Thinking,” can be found online at https://www.ppforum.ca/publications/march-11-2014-fast-flexible-and-forward-thinking-public-service-next
 
A Question-and-Answer with Public Policy Forum President David Mitchell
 
Tomorrow’s public service will be “flat, flexible and forward thinking,” according to a new report by the Ottawa-based Public Policy Forum that compiled the leadership skills future bureaucrats will need.
 
The PPF interviewed about 130 public and private sector leaders, including up-and-comers, in seven cities. The Ottawa Citizen asked PPF President David Mitchell some of the same questions his survey put to these leaders. Here’s an edited transcript of what he said:
 
Q. What types of competencies (skills) are essential for public service leadership today and in the future?
 
A. We don’t think they will all be new, sexy tech-related or fancy newfangled skills because some of them are quite traditional. For instance, literacy and numeracy skills can’t be taken for granted … But there are some new competencies identified that we think are essential, including cultural fluency … Public services are less diverse than the communities they serve and, as a result, there needs to be more training and education around cultural issues, beyond language skills, and to the sensitivity of the different cultural makeup of our country.
 
Another one that’s very controversial is political fluency or acumen.  There is a growing sense at all levels of government that there is a gap between public servants and elected representatives and political staff … There’s a strong sense that public servants not only have to be more sensitive to this but they need training on how to work more effectively with elected representatives and their staff, whatever political stripe, because if the gap continues to grow, there is a question of whether the public service will even remain a part of the government anymore in the traditional sense that it is part of the policy development and decision-making apparatus.
 
Q. What differences exist between leadership capacities in the public service versus other sectors?
 
A. The way the private sector approaches risk appears very different. In public services, the goal of recent years is risk-free public administration, which isn’t a very inspiring environment to work when you can’t even take intelligent risks … Strategic planning for the medium term is a competency we need to develop, beyond planning just for the next budget which seems to be endemic within our governments … Another large one is partnership skills. Partnership and collaboration within government, let alone outside government, is not a strength of Canada’s public service … Even in the competitive dog-eat-dog-world of capitalism in the private sector, there seems to be more collaboration and partnership than we see in government.
 
Q. How can the public sector build the necessary capacity to drive effective governance?
 
A. It starts with leadership and modelling the right kinds of behaviour. For instance, on the technology side, we heard about the need for reverse mentoring where young people who are tech-savvy can teach more experienced managers and leaders how it actually works … Another way to build capacity deals with career mobility. Right now, the solitudes in our country aren’t linguistic but public and private sectors and never the twain shall meet … Few people cross over the sectors during careers … What about a bright, young, smart, emerging leader in the public service who might like a year or two working outside in the private sector, a think-tank or in the media before going back into government? Let me tell you, there is way out but there is not a way back in … unless you make a big sacrifice and start all over. What we heard is an appetite for much more career mobility.
 
Q. Why would you recommend or not recommend the public service as a career?
 
A. You wouldn’t recommend it if you thought it was a dead end. The reason you would … is because we need good government and good people working in government and we need them more than ever now given the changes taking place.
 
It’s one of the reasons we concluded in the report a re-branding of public service. That might seem like an ambitious and crazy objective but we believe there is an opportunity to strategically re-position the public service as a great place to  work where there are no challenges that can be more demanding or more exciting than working in government on some of the complex difficult but important issues we need to address … Governments aren’t generally doing as good a job as they could, in our opinion, of clearly articulating the importance of the work they do and messaging this to potential recruits.
 
Types of Leaders
 
The PPF study came up with 10 leadership profiles for tomorrow’s super-bureaucrats. They are:
 
Astute Strategist: quick thinker, broad knowledge, good judgment
Empathetic Facilitator: relationship builder, communicator, manages expectations
Pragmatic Technophile: embraces innovation, new technology, understands risk
Catalyzing Agent: adapts to change, good motivator, seizes opportunities
Prudent Manager: business-savvy, manages budgets, resourceful
Persuasive Entrepreneur:  curious, creative, sells an idea
Shrewd Diplomat: political acumen, thick-skinned, negotiator, juggles many priorities
Fearless Adviser: honest, integrity, filters information, knows when to push and step back
Passionate Talent Scout: enthusiastic, manages talent, values leadership and diversity
Inspirational Team Captain: leads by example, authentic, positive, team player

Tuesday 25 March 2014

The Unaddressed Business of Filling Our Souls: Mood Science and the Evolutionary Origins of Depression (Maria Popova)



The Unaddressed Business of Filling Our Souls: Mood Science and the Evolutionary Origins of Depression

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What language and symbolism have to do with mood and how light exposure and sleep shape our mental health.
“Depression is a disorder of the ‘I,’ failing in your own eyes relative to your goals,” legendary psychologist Martin Seligman observed in hisessential treatise on learned optimism. But such a definition of depression, while true, appears somehow insufficient, overlooking the multitude of excruciating physical and psychological realities of the disease beyond the sense of personal failure. Perhaps William Styron came closer in his haunting memoir of depression, Darkness Visible, where he wrote of “depression’s dark wood,” “its inexplicable agony,” and the grueling struggle of those afflicted by it who spend their lives trying to trudge “upward and outward out of hell’s black depths.” And yet for all their insight into its manifestations, both the poets and the psychologists have tussled rather futilely to understand depression’s complex causes and, perhaps most importantly in terms both scientific and humanistic, its cures.

That’s precisely what psychologist Jonathan Rottenberg sets out to do in The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic (public library) — an ambitious, rigorously researched, and illuminating journey into the abyss of the soul and back out, emerging with insights both practical and conceptual, personal and universal, that shed light on one of the least understood, most pervasive, and most crippling pandemics humanity has ever grappled with. (A sobering note to the hyperbole-wary: At any given point, 22% of the population exhibit at least one symptom of depression and the World Health Organization projects that by 2030, depression will have led to more worldwide disability and lives lost than any other affliction, including cancer, stroke, heart disease, accidents, and even war.)
Rottenberg takes a radical approach to depression based not a disease model of the mind but on the evolutionary science of mood — a proposition that flies in the face of our cultural assumptions that have rendered the very subject of depression a taboo. He puts this bind in perspective:
Because depression is so unpleasant and so impairing, it may be difficult to imagine that there might be another way of thinking about it; something this bad must be a disease. Yet the defect model causes problems of its own. Some sufferers avoid getting help because they are leery of being branded as defective. Others get help and come to believe what they are repeatedly told in our system of mental health: that they are deficient.
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People still feel inclined to whisper when they talk about depression. Depression has no “Race for the Cure”; this condition rarely spawns dance marathons, car washes, or golf tournaments. Consequently, the lacerating pain of depression remains uncomfortably private.
Illustration by artist Bobby Baker from 'Diary Drawings: Mental Illness and Me.' Click image for details.
Rather than subscribing to this broken deficiency model of depression, Rottenberg argues that affective science — the empirical study of mood — lies at the heart of understanding the condition. Defining moods as “internal signals that motivate behavior and move it in the right direction,” he argues that our bodies are “a collection of adaptations, evolutionary legacies that have helped us survive and reproduce in the face of uncertainty and risk” and paints the backdrop of understanding depression:
The mood system … is the great integrator. It takes in information about the external and internal worlds and summarizes what is favorable or unfavorable in terms of accomplishing key goals related to survival and reproduction.
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Once a goal is embarked upon, the mood system monitors progress toward its attainment. It will redouble effort when minor obstacles arise. If progress stops entirely because of an insuperable obstacle, the mood system puts the brakes on effort.
Under this model, mood has an evolutionary function as a mediator of survival strategies. Rottenberg cites a number of experiments, which have indicated that negative mood incites one’s psychoemotional arsenal when a task becomes too challenging. For instance, when study participants are deliberately put in a negative mood and asked to perform a difficult task, their blood pressure spikes — a sign that the body is being mobilized for extra alertness and effort. But if the task is made insurmountably difficult, so much so that success stops being possible, the spike no longer occurs and the mood system dials down the effort. In that sense, mood — the seedbed of depression — isn’t an arbitrary state that washes over us in a whim, but a sieve that separates the goals worth pursuing from those guaranteed to end in disappointment.
Rottenberg argues that our relationship to the mood system is shaped by the way we talk about it and is mired in toxic cultural constructs that bleed into our language:
One of the amazing things about the mood system is how much of it operates outside of conscious awareness. Moods, like most adaptations, developed in species that had neither language nor culture. Yet words are the first things that come to mind when most people think about moods. We are “mad,” we are “sad,” we are “glad.” So infatuated are we with language that both laypeople and scientists find it tempting to equate the language we use to describe mood with mood itself.
This is a big mistake. We need to shed this languagecentric view of mood, even if it threatens our pride to accept that we share a fundamental element of our mental toolkit with rabbits and roadrunners. Holding to a myth of human uniqueness puts us in an untenable position. For one thing, it would mean that we deny mood to those humans who have not yet acquired mood language (babies) or have lost mood language (Alzheimer’s patients). Toddlers, goats, and chimps all lack the words to describe the internal signals that track their efforts to find a mate, food, or a new ally; their moods can shape behavior without being named. Language is not required for moods. All that is needed is some capability for wakeful alertness and conscious perception, including the perception of pain and pleasure, which is certainly present in all mammals.
Still, Rottenberg cautions, “what we say about our feelings is only one window on mood” — we need, instead, to examine a variety of evidence in the mind, brain, and behavior to paint a dimensional picture of mood and depression. In fact, part of the puzzle lies in the crucial difference between feelings, or emotions, and moods — emotions are more instantaneous and short-lived responses compared to moods, which take longer to germinate and longer to wither out. Moods, Rottenberg explains, “are an overall summary of the various cues around us [and usually] are harder to sort out.” Our deeper reliance on moods rather than feelings is one of the things that make us human and different from other species, a difference empowered by our use of language and symbolism:
Our heavy reliance on symbolic representation also makes the precipitants of low mood more idiosyncratic in our species than in others. We become sad because Bambi’s mother dies, because there are starving people a continent away, because of a factory closing, because of a World Series defeat in extra innings. Though there is a core theme of loss that cuts across species, humans’ capacity for language enables a larger number of objects to enter, and alter, the mood system.
Illustration by artist Bobby Baker from 'Diary Drawings: Mental Illness and Me.' Click image for details.
And yet for all our emotional sophistication, we remain strikingly blind to many of the real triggers and causes of moods, instead falling back on our penchant for psychological storytelling. Rottenberg ties this back to depression:
Despite our deep yearning to explicate moods, the average person cannot see many of the most important influences on mood. As the great integrator, the mood system is acted on by many potential objects, and many of the forces that act on mood are hidden from conscious awareness (such as stress hormones or the state of our immune system). Left to our own devices, the stories we tell ourselves about our moods often end up being just that. Stories.
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We must understand the ultimate sources of depression if we are ever to get it under control. To do so, we need to step back and replace the defunct defect model with a completely different approach. The mood science approach will be both historical and integrative: historical because we cannot understand why depressed mood is so prevalent until we understand why we have the capacity for low mood in the first place, and integrative because a host of different forces (many hidden) simultaneously act on people to impel them into the kinds of low moods that breed serious depression.
But before we are tempted to file away low moods as an affliction to be treated, Rottenberg offers a necessary neutrality disclaimer, pointing out that both high and low moods have their advantages and disadvantages:
We are born with the capacity for both high and low moods because each has, on average, presented more fitness benefits than costs. Just as being warm blooded can be a liability, high moods are increasingly understood as having a “dark side,” sometimes enabling rash, impulsive, and even destructive behavior. Likewise the capacity for low mood is accompanied by a bundle of benefits and costs. Seen this way, depression follows our adaptation for low mood like a shadow — it’s an inevitable outcome of a natural process, neither wholly good nor entirely bad.
So what might be the evolutionary advantages of low moods? Several theories exists. One proposes that low moods help dampen agitation in confrontation, thus de-escalating conflicts — when a loser yields rather than fighting to the death, he or she is able to survive rather than perish. Another paints low mood as a “stop mechanism” that, just like the task studies suggested, prevent the person from exerting effort towards a goal that is either unattainable or dangerous. A different theory conceptualizes low mood as a tool for making better decisions, putting us in more contemplative mindsets better suited for analyzing our environment and solving particularly hard problems.
In fact, the latter is something repeatedly confirmed by experiments, most notably in the pioneering work of psychologists Lyn Abramson and Lauren Alloy, who termed this role of low mood depressive realism. Their work has inspired multiple other experiments, including this 2007 study:
Australian psychologist Joseph Forgas found that a brief mood induction changed how well people were able to argue. Compared to subjects in a positive mood, subjects who were put in a negative mood (by watching a ten-minute film about death from cancer) produced more effective persuasive messages on a standardized topic such as raising student fees or aboriginal land rights. Follow-up analyses found that the key reason the sadder people were more persuasive was that their arguments were richer in concrete detail [suggesting that] sad mood, at least of the garden variety, makes people more deliberate, skeptical, and careful in how they process information from their environment.
These positive uses of negative moods may seem at first counterintuitive, but Rottenberg reminds us that “multiple utilities are the hallmark of an adaptation.” He puts things in perspective:
One way to appreciate why these states have enduring value is to ponder what would happen if we had no capacity for them. Just as animals with no capacity for anxiety were gobbled up by predators long ago, without the capacity for sadness, we and other animals would probably commit rash acts and repeat costly mistakes.
In support of this conception, Rottenberg cites a wonderfully poetic passage by Lee Stringer from his essay “Fading to Gray,” found in the altogether fantastic 2001 volume Unholy Ghost: Writers on Depression:
Perhaps what we call depression isn’t really a disorder at all but, like physical pain, an alarm of sorts, alerting us that something is undoubtedly wrong; that perhaps it is time to stop, take a time-out, take as long as it takes, and attend to the unaddressed business of filling our souls.
(What gorgeous language, “the unaddressed business of filling our souls” — rather than an affliction, isn’t that the ever-flowing lifeblood of human existence?)
Cover illustration for P.M. Hubbard's 'Picture of Millie' by Edward Gorey. Click image for details.
Still, Rottenberg is careful to point out that severe depression, far from being evolutionarily beneficial, is absolutely crippling, marked by “distorted thinking that appears to be the polar opposite of depressive realism.” In fact, what is perhaps most perplexing about the condition is that scientists don’t yet have a litmus test for when low mood tips over from beneficial to perilous, no point on the mood spectrum that clearly delineates the normal from the diseased. Rottenberg proposes that mood science is the key to honoring the nuance of that spectrum. He differentiates between milder periods of low mood, which he terms shallow depression, and periods wherein the low mood is both long-lasting and severe, which he calls deep depression, and writes:
Shallow depression is adaptive, whereas deep depression is a maladaptive disease.
The strongest evidence for this spectrum model, rather than a binary division between wellness and disease, comes from the fact that shallow and deep depression share a set of risk factors, suggesting that mood, which varies along a continuum of intensity, is the common denominator. Rottenberg puts it elegantly:
Ignoring this would be like a weather forecaster using separate models to predict warm days and very hot days rather than considering general factors that predict temperature.
So what, exactly, seeds low mood? Rottenberg points to three distinct but interconnected triggers: explainability, evolutionary significance, and timing. He writes:
Modern psychological theories postulate that we recover more quickly from a bad event if we can readily explain it. We would expect, then, that events that generate mixed feelings and/or confusing thoughts would be a powerful impetus toward persistent low mood.
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Events that present irresolvable dilemmas on themes that have evolutionary significance — like mate choice — are fertile seeds for low mood.
When the bad things happen also matters. Extensive research demonstrates that early life traumas, such as physical or sexual abuse, lay the groundwork for a slow creep of depression and anxiety.
He cites the example of a middle-aged woman suffering from lifelong “low-grade depression” and anxiety, who grew up with an alcoholic father in a household that vetoed any discussion of feelings. When a neighbor molested her at the age of thirteen, she kept the trauma to herself, believing that her mother would blame her and her father would explode in a rage. Rottenberg explains how these early experiences provide the psychoemotional backdrop for our adult lives:
Jan’s chronic feelings of anxiety and sadness are natural, the product of an intact mood system. In a world in which a child’s primary attachment figures — parents — are emotionally unavailable and unable to help when a trusted neighbor turns into an attacker, the mood system is ever forward looking. It assumes that, if the worst has already happened, it can and will happen again. Best to be prepared. Anxious moods scanning for danger (especially in relationships) and sad moods analyzing what was lost and why serve as the last lines of defense against further ruin.
Illustration by Edward Gorey from 'Donald and the…' Click image for details.
Triggers notwithstanding, Rottenberg points out that individual temperament is an essential component in people’s mood responses to the same events. He cites a study conducted after the 9/11 attacks which found that a month later Lower Manhattan residents who had been there on September 11 experienced wildly different degrees of depressive symptoms, ranging from crippling major depression to hardly any symptoms compared to their respective state on September 10.
This variation, once more, can be traced back to early childhood. Rottenberg cites the work of psychologist Jerome Kagan who has spent decades studying infants and found that temperament can be detected as early as in nine-month-olds, who exhibit “reasonably consistent and strong fear reactions to a variety of potentially threatening situations.” These early differences in temperament, Rottenberg argues, are likely to be heavily influenced by genes.
And yet, just like the mood spectrum, temperament isn’t a black-and-white game but an evolutionarily wise strategy:
Experiments by evolutionary biologist David Sloan Wilson also demonstrate that there is no “single best temperament.” In one condition, Wilson dropped metal traps into a pond containing pumpkinseed sunfish. A subset of the fish showed boldness and interest in investigating a novel object. This was a really bad move, as they were immediately caught, and had Dr. Wilson been a real predator, it would have meant the end of their genes. Another group of fish were wary and stayed back from the traps; they were not caught. This situation favored the wary fish.
In a subsequent condition, all the fish were scooped up, brought into a new environment, and then carefully observed. Here the previously wary fish had great difficulty adapting to novelty. They were slower than their bold compatriots to begin feeding, taking five more days to start eating. In this situation the survival of the bold fish was favored.
Noting that the single most indicative depression-prone personality trait is neuroticism, Rottenberg adds:
Like depression itself, temperaments that seed depression are neither wholly good nor wholly bad.
Pointing to two distinct sets of influences on mood — forces that make us vulnerable to long periods of shallow depression and ones that deepen existing shallow depression — Rottenberg makes a poignant observation about our culture’s growing fetishism of happiness:
Our expectations about happiness have changed dramatically, and as they rise, ironically, are making low moods harder to bear than ever before.
Illustration by Edward Gorey from 'The Green Beads.' Click image for details.
In fact, a number of our modern fixations have taken a toll on our vulnerability to depression, including our cult of productivity, which accelerated after the invention of artificial light. But while routines may be the key to creative discipline, they may also put us at hazard for depression:
Mood is about the mundane. Day-to-day routines — how we spend our time, how we care for our bodies and minds — continually shape our moods and can have a strong influence on whether low mood persists. Routines that build up physical and mental resources can raise mood. Other routines, woven into the fabric of modern life, are grossly misaligned with evolutionary imperatives and have the potential to seed low mood. Many of our most familiar routines seem almost perversely designed to wreak havoc on the mood system.
We already know that REM sleep is intimately linked with depression and thatinsufficient exposure to natural light is perilous to our well-being. Rottenberg sheds light on the scale and intensity of the problem:
One mundane influence on mood is daily light exposure. After all, mood evolved in the context of a rotating earth, with its recurrent twenty-four-hour cycle of light and dark phases. Our species is diurnal, and the best chance of finding sustenance and other rewards was in the light phase (think about the challenge of identifying edible berries or stalking a mammoth). Consequently, we are configured to be more alert during the day than at night. Consistent with the link between light and mood, some clinically serious low mood is triggered by the seasonal change of shorter daylight hours. The onset of seasonal affective disorder, a subtype of mood disorder, is usually in winter.
Our newfound reliance on indoor light has effectively turned most people into cave dwellers. Artificial light is much fainter and provides fewer mood benefits than sunlight. When small devices that measure light exposure and duration were attached to adults in San Diego, one of the sunniest cities in the United States, it was discovered that the average person received only fifty-eight minutes of sunlight a day. What’s more, those San Diegans who received less light exposure during their daily routines reported more symptoms of depression.
(My reliance on this light-therapy device, which has gotten me through many dreary New York winters, suddenly seems less trivial and less of a placebo effect.)
Illustration by Alessandro Sanna from 'The River.' Click image for details.
As a champion of sleep, I especially appreciate the sobering evidence Rottenberg cites from a number of sleep studies:
Mood is lower after even one night of sleep deprivation. Moreover, brief experimental sleep restriction induces bodily changes that mimic some aspects of depression. It’s important to ponder the consequences of sleep deprivation now happening on a mass scale: more than 40 percent of Americans between the ages of thirteen and sixty-four say they rarely or never get a good night’s sleep on weeknights, and a third of young adults probably have long periods of at least partial sleep deprivation on an ongoing basis. Over the last century average nightly sleep duration has fallen. In 1910 Americans slept an average of approximately nine hours; that average had dropped to seven hours by 2002.
Part of the answer to the riddle of low mood, then, lies in contemporary routines that increasingly feature less light, less rest, and more activities that are out of kilter with the body’s natural rhythm.
In the rest of The Depths, Rottenberg, who has battled depression himself for much of his life, goes on to explore how the multiple seeds of the condition cross-pollinate each other, why other species may hold the key to understanding human depression, and what we can do, both as a culture and as individuals, to loosen the grip of this unrelenting oppressor. Complement it with this simple and effective exercise to increase your well-being and lower depression from Martin Seligman, founding father of Positive Psychology, then revisit this provocative read on how antidepressants affect identity-formation.

Like baboons, our elected leaders are literally addicted to power (Dr. Ian Robertson)


Like baboons, our elected leaders are literally addicted to power

Political power has a similar effect on the brain to cocaine - and it's not surprising that, as the Leveson Inquiry shows, our political leaders are hooked on it, says Dr Ian Robertson.


Democracy, the separation of judicial powers and the free press all evolved for essentially one purpose – to reduce the chance of leaders becoming power addicts. Power changes the brain triggering increased testosterone in both men and women. Testosterone and one of its by-products called 3-androstanediol, are addictive, largely because they increase dopamine in a part of the brain’s reward system called the nucleus accumbens. Cocaine has its effects through this system also, and by hijacking our brain’s reward system, it can give short-term extreme pleasure but leads to long-term addiction, with all that that entails.
Unfettered power has almost identical effects, but in the light of yesterday’s Leveson Inquiry interchanges in London, there seems to be less chance of British government ministers becoming addicted to power. Why? Because, as it appears from the emails released by James Murdoch yesterday, they appeared to be submissive to the all-powerful Murdoch empire, hugely dependent on the support of this organization for their jobs and status, who could swing hundreds of thousands of votes for or against them.
Submissiveness and dominance have their effects on the same reward circuits of the brain as power and cocaine. Baboons low down in the dominance hierarchy have lower levels of dopamine in key brain areas, but if they get ‘promoted’ to a higher position, then dopamine rises accordingly. This makes them more aggressive and sexually active, and in humans similar changes happen when people are given power.What’s more, power also makes people smarter, because dopamine improves the functioning of the brain’s frontal lobes. Conversely, demotion in a hierarchy decreases dopamine levels, increases stress and reduces cognitive function.
But too much power - and hence too much dopamine - can disrupt normal cognition and emotion, leading to gross errors of judgment and imperviousness to risk, not to mention huge egocentricity and lack of empathy for others. The Murdoch empire and its acolytes seem to have got carried away by the power they have wielded over the British political system and the unfettered power they have had - unconstrained by any democratic constraints - has led to the quite extraordinary behaviour and arrogance that has been corporately demonstrated.
We should all be grateful that two of the three power-constraining elements of democracy - the legal system and a free press - have managed to at last reign in some of the power of the Murdoch empire. But it was a close call for both, given the threat to financial viability of the newspaper industry and to the integrity of the police system through the close links between the Murdoch empire and Scotland Yard.

Monday 24 March 2014

Introverted Love

Emotional Intimacy (Brenda Knowles)


Emotional Intimacy: An Introvert’s Ultimate Turn On?


When was the first time you made love? The last time? I was in my 40s before I really made love. What took me so long? Why didn’t I experience that heavenly closeness and soulmate sanctity before my fourth decade? Because making love involves emotional AND physical intimacy. I never truly felt safe or in love enough to be myself —to be so vulnerable and give so freely — that my partner could love every aching, exposed part of me. I only extended myself emotionally enough to appear engaged.  I held my true self at a distance. I didn’t want to love someone more than they loved me. I didn’t want to lose myself in the loving either. Most of all I didn’t want to reveal the real, vulnerable, sensitive me.
I withheld my full self and trust subconsciously.  I only realized what I was doing when I couldn’t do it anymore. I was withering on the vine, my desire for deep connecting intimacy so great that I knew I couldn’t live without it.
What is emotional intimacy?
Sharing heart stories, broken stories and tales of exquisite joy.
Being fully seen and known.
The closest you can get to someone non-physically.
Finding meaning as communication flows.
Risking vulnerability and growing stronger because of it.
Interactions with feelings attached.
The best foreplay.
Giving without depleting.
Sharing truths without fear of rejection.
Extending yourself and expanding exponentially.
A two-way connection where you both feel heard and nourished.
Trusting.
slipped into intimacy
Obstacles to intimacy
For years I felt a shame regarding what seemed like my inferior nature. My feelings get hurt easily. I suck at fast paced living and manic juggling. No one is ever going to call me stoic.  I’ve often been called sensitive. My heart is on my sleeve poised for collisions with the real world and I tried to hide that.
I often felt like I had to earn my worthiness by being highly productive, happy and endlessly energetic (crazy unrealistic I know). I needed that bright persona in order to be lovable. By upholding that belief, I not only robbed myself of a safe place to let down my guard but I cheated my partners out of that haven as well. If I couldn’t be myself, neither could they.
According to Margaret Paul Ph.D. and her article, Fear of Intimacythere are two other fears that stifle emotional intimacy: Fear of rejection (losing the other person) and fear of engulfment (being invaded, controlled or losing oneself).
Although I felt loved by my former husband there was definitely a subconscious resistance to him. A resistance built in order to stave off engulfment. As an introvert, I often felt invaded or controlled by his extroverted nature which I perceived as stronger and more dominant. Inability to remove such resistance made it impossible to share emotional intimacy and was a major reason our marriage broke down.
How to foster emotional intimacy?
The secret to moving beyond the fear of intimacy lies in developing a powerful, loving, adult part of you that learns how to not take rejection personally, and learns to set appropriate limits against engulfment. ~ Dr. Margaret Paul
You must recognize your wholeness.  It is crucial to take responsibility for your own self-worth.  No one else can define you or give you strength and value.  That must come from within. If you know yourself intimately and accept your gifts and dark facets then no one can take anything from you.  Rejection is a risk but not permanently devastating. Engulfment is a risk but kept at bay because you speak up for yourself. You no longer allow anyone to invade your space because you have boundaries that serve your spirit.
How does an introvert create self-worth?
Everyone is after the same thing, y’know.  It’s called intimacy.  The only way to experience it is to be yourself.  ~ Joan Erikson, A Year By the Sea
Introverts dwell contentedly in their inner-worlds. Feelings, impressions and ideas fuel our existence.  The only thing equal to delicious solitude in its ability to rejuvenate and nourish this internal living? Emotional intimacy. Inner-worlds intertwined.
Self-worth eluded me for much of my life. Admittedly, I followed the herd hoping to gain value by belonging to certain groups or having certain friends. lovers or relatives by my side. Important by association. With my introverted nature I felt I needed a stand out character next to me in order to advance, get noticed or do anything ground breaking.  This is what I witnessed growing up. The extroverts were popular, envied and in charge.
I undervalued observing, feeling and listening skills.
Then I encountered incredible introverts who change the lives of others for the better.  My own life drifted from the herd because my guitar teacher validated my thinking and taught me I am whole all on my own.  I’ll never forget what he said one day not that long after we’d met.
 You seem like someone who could do anything. 
To a stay-at-home mom heaped in limiting beliefs, this was an oasis in the desert, a buffet to the starving. My backbone straightened instantly.
Almost cosmically, I gathered more introverts into my universe. I swam in a sea of richness in writing classes. We shared broken stories and expanded exponentially. Surrounded by others fed  from within, I learned that I can feed myself.  This way of existing felt so natural. It was as if I was given permission to revel in my self. I was shown my own light. This comfort in my own skin gave me the confidence to spearhead my life.  I had less fear of rejection and more strength to combat engulfment, not only within my introvert tribe but within all realms. Blissfully open to emotional intimacy as well as physical intimacy, making love became a reality.
How much emotional intimacy are you getting? Extroverts, your thoughts? 

Introvert Relationships: Love Me or Leave Me But Please Don’t Need Me (Too Much) (Brenda Knowles)



One of the gifts of introversion is that we have to be discriminating about our relationships.  We know we only have so much energy for reaching out; if we’re going to invest, we want it to be good.
~ Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power
Often this gift of discriminating taste feels more like a burden than a gift.  I am acutely aware of my limited energy.  Quite honestly most of my energy goes to raising my children.  What energy I have left I use to nurture friendships, connect with extended family and date.
The truth is we (introverts) have to be selective about all of our relationships.  Unlike extroverts we recharge from within. Socializing with lots of people (although enjoyable) can drain us.  Extroverts get energy from social interactions and external stimulation.
Over the last few years I have learned to pause and gauge how I feel with different people.  Do I feel excited, energized, light?  Or do I feel anxious, depleted, heavy? The more uplifting a person’s company the more time I can spend with them and the more of myself I can give.
How to Attract and Hold an Introvert’s Heart
What makes a partner’s personality uplifting and generative? Intimacy. Introverts are not into small talk.  We want to share emotions, feelings and ideas.  Not just any emotions or feelings or ideas – meaningful ones.
Physical intimacy can be energizing as well – provided it is passionate and not obligatory. Sensuality starts with the external but blooms within. Anything that  heightens or encourages a positive internal experience is appealing to an introvert.
Humor in a relationship goes a long way too.  It’s both a physical and emotional boon.
The key to a relationship with an introvert?  It must feel effortless. So full of desire and attraction that the work naturally required in any relationship is done without thinking. Relationships with obligations and agendas forefront must be forged.  Relationships with desire and passion up front must be expressed. Forging a relationship takes up much precious energy.  Introverts generate energy from within by reflecting on ideas, thoughts, impressions and feelings. If we find someone desirable who can share what swirls within their interior then synergy occurs.  We expand and are left energized rather than depleted.
Carl Jung said we choose partners to expand who we are.
Speaking for Myself…
Neediness is my dating kryptonite.  If I sense that someone needs their hand held constantly or is a possessive type, I run like the wind. That kind of relationship requires a lot of external attention, which no matter how exciting at first, ends up being a drain.
Constant drama and complaining will also leave me as lifeless as a forgotten doll.  Deep empathy is another trait of introverts.  If you have problems/pain in your life, I will feel for you intensely.  I will want to help/show you light, which is all fine and good until I find myself in the dark with nothing left to give.
One of life’s greatest pleasures is the anticipation of pleasure.
~ unknown
I love love. Who doesn’t? I dream easily of  romantic scenarios. Conversations and 
canoodling for hours. Nights of lights in the city, simple bedrooms in country farmhouses. I’m most definitely ahopeful romantic.

I both get lost and feel at home in love songs.
The Space Between
I read somewhere that it’s the space between times with a special person that encourages an introvert to fall in love.  Their internal replays and daydreams are so pleasure rich that the relationship is enhanced.
I’ve had internal imagination backfire on me as well.  Before a first date I naturally imagine a perfect vision of the man himself and the date.  When a date does not live up to my imagination? Disheartening disappointment.
Many of us (introverts) want and have  great relationships, but we generally prefer no relationship to a bad one.
~ Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power
It’s not always easy to find a partner who understands an introvert’s need for downtime.  Most recently, a gentlemen who I had been talking to over the phone and corresponding with online told me that we would probably make better friends than partners.  He said my independence may not work for him.  He wants someone to witness experiences with him.  I’m not exactly sure what he meant, but in truth I think I am one of the best people to witness experiences with. I pay attention and revel in awe over the simplest things. I believe he meant he needed MORE shared experiences.  Quantity AND quality.  I admired him for speaking honestly and after that our conversation relaxed. I had been holding my breath wondering if I could keep up with the amount of attention he extended and expected.
That’s something I worry about – keeping up with the other person’s affection.  What if they text, call or write me ten times a day?  Do I have to reciprocate the same amount?  Will that become old and exhausting?  Another reason to be discriminating when dating.
Solitude an Option?
If we are going to put ourselves out there it has to be magnificent.  Better than solitude.  Solitude is always an option for introverts.  We use time to ourselves to renew.  Of course, during solitude it is completely possible that romantic daydreams surface sending us out again to find something very very good.